Quite a few years ago my friend told me about their “Family Mission.” I had never heard of this concept before and I was truly interested in what it entailed. So she showed it to me and I LOVED it. I thought to myself, “I want one of those!”
And I continued wanting one…for years.
I was so intimidated by making one. Where do I start? What does it say? How long should it be? What should it look like? And so on and so forth….and it held me back, but it didn’t stop me from wanting one.
I want a Family Mission Statement because I want a close family. I want children who know and love who they are. I want them to know that when they make mistakes, (like I talked about HERE) they can come to their parents. I want them to fail and to learn to get back up and try again. I want them to know that we are an eternal family. I want them to know and remember where they came from. I want them to learn how to listen to God. I want them to be friends and I want them to work hard and enjoy life.
Sometimes, I get so busy talking to my kids, that I know those words are going in one ear and out the other.
But what if we could create something together, that they would KNOW and UNDERSTAND? What if they could have a daily reminder of who loves them and what to do when times get hard? When my kids are faced with tough choices, I want them to remember all the things I’ve taught them. I really do think that a Family Mission Statement can be a quick and effective way for them to remember all of these things.
Not to mention, it’ll remind me of the kind of parent I want to be. It’ll remind me of the kind of relationship I have with my family members and with God. It’ll act as my North Star, guiding me and helping me create the family and home I want to live in.
So for those of you who have been wanting a Family Mission, but have been too scared to do it, here are 4 easy steps you can take to get it done. I promise, it really is easy, once you decide to just get it done.
1.Meet as a family
First, get every member of the family together. Call a special meeting where the entire family is present. You can do this around the dinner table if that’s the easiest time to get everyone together. Or if life is crazy, you can do it while you’re all in the car. It really doesn’t matter, just as long as everyone is there.
If you have teens, make sure they are there. If it’s just your husband and you, and maybe a young baby, that’s fine too. Just make sure that everyone who has a voice, is present, so they can help create the statement.
This ensures that everyone will take ownership of it. Since everyone helped create it they are more likely to remember and will choose to live by it.
2. Choose adjectives to describe your home/family
After we sat everyone down and told them what we were doing, I asked them to name different characteristics/adjectives they wanted our family/home to be like.
Each child just started spouting off words.
We love Jesus!
We are kind.
We say sorry.
We have courage.
We don’t lie.
We love each other.
We love ourselves.
We help people.
I wrote down everything they said. The list was pretty long and when it was all said and done, and it made me smile to see/hear what our kids wanted our home and family to be like.
3.Write in sentence form
After we tucked them in bed, I sat down and typed up the words in sentence form, but I had a few moments of hesitation at first.
You see, the main thing that held me back from having a family mission statement was this step. I didn’t know how long it needed to be. Was I going to make it too short or was it going to be too long and complex? Will my kids understand it? Will it make sense? Am I using the “right” words?
Well, let me tell you what I’ve learned. There is no secret to how long or short your mission statement needs to be. Just remember the words that your family created together and you’ll know exactly what needs to be written.
So that’s what I did. I just started typing the things our family had said.
Once I started, I knew exactly how it needed to go. I made a few adjustments, but all in all, it took me about 15 minutes to come up with our final draft.
4.Display it in your home.
Now, this is the most important step of all. All of the other steps will be wasted if you don’t do this step.
I mean, what’s the point in having a Family Mission if you never see it or read it??
After I typed up our words, I copied them in Canva and created a PDF so that I could get it printed and framed. I then ordered a copy of it and as soon as it comes in the mail, it’ll be hung on my gallery wall in our living room, along with all of our other photos and artwork.
While it is displayed I want to remind my kids about it often. I’m actually going to have them memorize it, as part of our homeschool lesson each day. We’ll say it after the pledge and scripture study and soon, it’ll be something they know by heart.
I truly believe in the power of words and when I read these words, I imagine our family being just like this.
No. We will NOT be perfect at this. We will not always feel like we love each other our ourselves. We will have times when we are not working hard or laughing. But I KNOW that if we can remember this, we will try to live by it and when those bad days come along, we will have something to remind us of who we truly are and who we are striving to become.
And that’s what a Family Mission Statement is all about.
Do you have a Family Mission Statement? I’d love to hear more about it if you do! If you don’t have one, then you need to get on it. I promise that you won’t regret the way it’ll bring your family closer together.